SOULMATING, LLC
BELVILLE, NC

We are psychologists, a husband and wife team who are passionate about life and love, teaching relationship and successful living skills. We are “The SoulMating Doctors.” This work has become our mission as we have observed so many men and women, whether single or married, straight or gay, struggling to find fulfilling, committed relationships. Being intimately aware of the challenges of being male or female in today’s world, we know that a new partnership model is needed which is based on friendship and mutual understanding, without power struggles. To achieve this end, we consistently utilize our unique model of partnership called SoulMating. SoulMating is based on two complete individuals (I’s) inventing the (WE), where both people are heard and have their needs met. Through this model, power struggles disappear and are replaced by an appreciation, acceptance, respect and understanding of yourself and another. The result is a WIN-WIN partnership where 1+1=3. “The SoulMating Doctors, Our Mission SoulMating Model of Healthy Partnership Learning from our own experiences and mistakes taught us valuable tools to help individuals like you get the results you desire in finding and maintaining a loving lifetime partnership. Our continual hope and mission is to make a difference in people’s lives by helping them achieve the intimate relationships we feel everyone deserves. I have been practicing a unique form of therapy for the past 30 years, a combination of relationship coach/therapist. As many of you have read about in our book “SoulMating”or have heard me discuss in my lectures, for most my life until I was in my 30’s, I was “broken” and suffered greatly with depression and anxiety, along with having multiple addictions such as bulimia, co-dependency and workaholism. I tried several different types of therapy beginning in my teens, but nothing seemed to work. Even while attending graduate school to become a psychologist, I was in so much pain that I went the Self-Help route. This journey began with 12 step-programs, EST and The Forum in the 80’s. These three programs changed my personal and professional life forever because I was given the tools and skills to help me transform. Consequently, I was driven to continue attending workshops, not only to heal myself, but also to teach others what I had learned. First, I worked with women who had eating disorders, in both individual and group therapy. Here, the focus was on teaching them how to like and love themselves to become a whole person and to become more spiritual, which definitely helped cure their addiction. Then, I worked with men and women to help them transform their dating and mating life by creating and co-leading relationship support groups for singles for 10 years with Gail Prince, an educator. This culminated in the publication of our ground-breaking best-selling book I truly live all the wisdom contained in my first book. After a difficult and tumultuous youth, I began a long process of self-discovery and personal growth that culminated in finding the key to living a life of joy, abundance and contribution. What is more rewarding than to discover “WHO” we are, to like and love ourselves. We need to live our lives with a sense of fulfillment, purpose and meaning to manifest our dreams. For me, it was meeting Jeff, my spiritual partner, and getting married for the first time at age 48. Today, I realize that my professional practice was devoted to helping myself and others become a whole person (I), ready to enter into a healthy relationship. Since Jeff and I began living and working together, our new work has expanded to not only teach others how to become a healthy I, but also how to invent a loving WE. All my losses propelled me on a spiritual and emotional quest to help make sense of what happened to me. This resulted in my ability to begin to touch my own soul and view life from a very different perspective. I went from operating as a rational, logical person to becoming a more feeling and emotionally oriented being. This transformation propelled me to learn and grow in more psychological and spiritually oriented arenas. This journey led me to my current work with Basha and the development of specific tools, skills and attitudes to help transform people’s lives. Specifically, my expertise helps individuals look at problems and situations, acknowledging a whole new set of solutions and options based on the perspectives of their personality and the energies of their soul. Turning negatives into positives, realizing there is more to life than seeing the world only through the DOINGS of life rather than the BEINGs we all are, is the core of my work. We are entering our 20th year of our passionate partnership. Our physical, spiritual, intellectual, and emotional attraction grows with each day. Surprisingly, we often spend twenty-four hours a day living and working together and never become bored or disinterested, just some quick emotional outbursts when differences occur that are resolved within a short period of time. Actually, our relationship is one of the easiest parts of our lives, the most fulfilling and the most fun. In general, our partnership works because we are committed to learning and growing from our mistakes as we consistently embrace all the components of our SoulMating Model of Healthy Partnership, inventing the WE. Spending time with us, you immediately become aware that our mission in life, directed by our strong connection to divine energy, is to contribute to others. Because we are so grateful for our couplehood, we have devoted our lives to helping people have a more loving relationship with themselves and another. Our major challenge includes how to best use our time and energy between giving to others – helping family, friends and clients – and spending time together enjoying life and each other. We are fortunate to be in such a remarkable personal relationship and want to help others achieve what we have found and continue to nurture.